You may have noticed that I've been a little M.I.A. the past few weeks. Truth be told, the universe has put a lot of things in to perspective. It's shown me that life is so very short, that we should do what we can whilst we can - and to embrace the opportunities presented to us. Whether that to be with taking on an amazing blog project or taking a week off to support the people you love. I won't go in to the nitty gritty right now on where this realisation stemmed from exactly, but what I do want to talk to you about is Wonderful You.
My little tagline is 'A life and style that doesn't follow the rules', because I've always believed that I don't need to fill a particular mould. And now, more than ever, realising that life is so very precious, I want to say why.
As bloggers, we all feel the pressure, don't we? We put exceedingly high expectations on ourselves because we really care about what we do, which I think is oddly lovely.
Pretty much all of us started this journey online because it made/makes us happy. And over the last little while I've realised I don't ever want to lose that - that alone is why I write this blog.
I don't keep myself to a strict schedule, I never have. Earlier this year I did a presentation for my old college on blogging and one of the questions asked was 'what if you don't have anything to say?' and I simply replied - 'well then, don't say anything'. I find it incredibly stressful to say to the world that I'll post on a Monday and a Wednesday at 'x' time, because, because my blog has always been about me spontaneously combusting my emotions on to a keyboard, it's always come from the heart, and for me I simply couldn't provide that level of authenticity if it was pigeonholed in to a time frame. Now, I don't think it's a bad thing to have a schedule and I completely appreciate the desire for consistency. But for me, my consistency is my voice. That I'll always be true to who I am and always say how I feel, when I feel it. And realising that that's okay, that as long as it makes sense for me, then that's all that matters.
I want to take chances.
With my design, I want to break away from traditional blogging and push my own boundaries. I want Wonderful You to be content creation rather than blog posts and videos. I want the two of them to transcend. For me, Wonderful You is a brand, an entity, it's me. I want you to feel like you learn something every time you visit my site but not to pretend I have all the answers and not to be a carbon copy. There's no A-Z on how to do this right, but embracing that it's your decision is the most empowering thing.
With MiLK, having representation, I'm learning to let myself trust that someone else could have my best interests at heart. That they can help me realise potential in myself that I may never be able to see flying solo.
And I think a lot of this stems from letting go of caring as much about what other people think, too. Having a sense of calm and knowing within myself that I am enough. Because that's just the thing isn't it? With blogging. That it's all about us, and how scary is it to feel safe with that?
But I think I do, now. I just want to enjoy every second, knowing that the blood, sweat and tears that go in to it are worth it. Because the more time that passes, the more I grow in to the person I've always wanted to be - and although that journey has seen so many changes, I've never wandered far from who I really am.
What I'm trying to say is - be who you want to be, share what you want to share, trust your gut and create what makes you happy. This journey is yours and being true to who you are is the biggest compliment you can pay yourself.
Don't be afraid to break away from the mould and lean in to what makes you feel good.
There's no right or wrong, there's just you and that's what makes this all so exciting.
“I am free, no matter what rules surround me. If I find them tolerable, I tolerate them; if I find them too obnoxious, I break them. I am free because I know that I alone am morally responsible for everything I do.”
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