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Wednesday, 13 July 2016


Fight and Flight. A blog post on living an imperfect life online.

She made broken look beautiful
and strong look invincible.
She walked with the Universe
on her shoulders and made it
look like a pair of wings.

That's the thing isn't it, everyone is fighting battles we know nothing about. 

I think it’s so important to remember that not everyone you see online, not everything you read, is a true representation of someone’s life. 

Mostly, people will choose to share their best version - showcasing a picturesque life that presents the glossiest moments, and why not? Of course people should share what makes them feel good and there aren’t any rules to be broken here - the internet gives us free reign. I for one love sharing my favourite moments with you guys, and I do believe that surrounding yourself with positivity is key to a happier life.

But to what end?
Fight and Flight. A blog post on living an imperfect life online.

I think it’s important to note, that when you’re scrolling through your favourite instagram accounts and you feel your shoulders slumping and your eyes start to water and maybe you even feel the bile rising in the back of your throat because ‘here we go again, why is my life so shit and everyone else has it so easy?’ that you don’t forget - this life you see, this happiness; it’s temporary and changeable. 

Everyone has bad days, not every meal they eat looks like it’s walked straight off a Pinterest page, not every single hair is always in place, not all beach days looked that effortless and not every relationship is that perfect. 

It’s hard, to look at others lives and not let it be a reflection on your own, to see someone else’s positivity and not cover it in negative energy because it isn’t your good thing. And it’s almost like an obsession, wouldn’t you agree? I mean, it is for me. I find myself scrolling through these perfectly composed blog posts or thought out grid themes on instagram and I’m floored with how much I want to know what these people are doing, I get lost in the beauty and perfection of it all. I find myself asking questions like ‘why don’t you take the time to have a theme, Megan?’ like it’s bad that I don’t, that it’s something I should be doing. But it's so important to also know it's not anyone else's responsibility but my own to realise and understand these fairytale photos are only a fraction of someone else's day.

And then, I try to not let myself get down or give myself a hard time because I’m not as polished as others, or let myself feel stupid that all my hard work doesn't always turn in to dollar bill$. Instead, I remind myself that what I really want, is to do what I can.

I want to let you know I'm vulnerable, that sometimes things hurt me, that sometimes I'm sad, that sometimes I feel inadequate and not good enough.

This isn’t a masquerade ball, it's the dance of my life and I want you to be able to see it from all angles. 

But I also want you to know that I'll keep fighting, that every battle is worth the hardships I face because we only have one life. We learn from the mistakes we make and from observing others, too. 

I want to show the world that I am capable - no matter how heavy my shoulders feel, no matter how broken I am. But I don’t want to be afraid of being honest when sometimes that might mean negativity, and simultaneously I don’t want to be apprehensive to be positive with my accomplishments either. 

For as long as I'm here I want to feel like I'm flying, to not be afraid to soar - to take my achievements and shine them right up, because I’m proud of myself; but also acknowledge that there are some battles I might lose and there are things I can't control. 

I want to strike a balance between the two, for you to look at my life and see something relatable not unattainable.

So when you feel like you're floating on the surface of this imaginary life you wish you had, don't let yourself fall. Lean in to the fear and let yourself fly because it doesn't have to mean fight or flight, we can do both, we can fight our demons, turn that negative energy in to something positive and instead look down at the world we created for ourselves and be proud.

Because perhaps sharing an imperfect life can be just as beautiful.
Fight and Flight. A blog post on living an imperfect life online.

Photography by Alexandra Cameron.



Marta said...

These pictures are so lovely!



icklebabe_com said...

Beautifully written post . Let's embrace all the sides of life and it's struggles as well as its triumphs . Beauty's in the everyday x

Kate-Louise said...

These pictures are beautiful,Such true points,I constantly find myself comparing everything I do to all of the "Top bloggers",It needs to stop! x

Malu Swartjes said...

Gorgeous photos!
Fashion & Beauty blog by Malu Swartjes! ♥

Anika H said...

This pictures are absolutely amazing! I was so stunned by them - beautiful! And I totally agree, everyone has bad days, social media is only a tiny window into what appears to be perfection!

Anika | anikamay.co.uk

JSBeautyAndStyleBlog said...

Completely agree with this post. Its so difficult and a lot easier said than done but people need to love themselves and their own lives instead of constantly putting themselves down. I always compare myself to pretty girls or happy girls and its just silly as I have no clue about their life!

Jaynie Shannon *


Lauren Britton Loves said...

Firstly these images are beautiful, well doe to Alex! And I love this post, how you've written and explained it all; so many times people get worked up and exhausted over perfection, and what perfection is to others, but we all have demons and troubles we don't share online, and they can make us stronger or weaker, but they don't make us any less. There is always a balance, and it's okay to slip and slide if only to make us more human.

Lauren x
Britton Loves | Lifestyle Beauty Wellbeing

Sara Chergui said...

These photos are so gorgeous !

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Kelly Lund said...

I agree with everything you write here. Someone's curated Instagram or YouTube videos are an edited version of reality that cut out the 'bad parts' that we all have. Even those who have seemingly 'perfect' lives still have struggles and challenges. It's just a fact of life. Maybe the secret is finding beauty in imperfection, after all.

xoxo - Kelly

Marie Cole said...

These photos are absolutely beautiful! When I first started blogging I would always compare myself to other well known bloggers and put myself down. I realized that I needed to stop doing that and just be myself. I'm still struggling with it, but I'm not as hard on myself as I once was.


Sophie Harrison said...

You right so beautifully and things like this NEED to be said. It's so easy to get swept away in the fantasy and 'perfection' of social media and believe it's real. Your photos capture it so wonderfully too, thank-you x

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Elizabeth Rebecca said...

These pictures are so amazing - I LOVE the floaty dresses too.


Hayley Rubery said...

I whole heartedly agree with this post lady - it was so beautifully written! The photos are stunning too!

Hayley xo

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